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Why do we, children, have to suffer for our parents’ mistakes?

Coming from a family of conflicts, I’ve often pondered upon this question and I’ve never once come to a amiable conclusion – Tape it back together is drawn by an artist who went through (as written in her description) just as much and probably worse than most of us.

My perception:

Marriage is a vow taken when two people decides to live with each other. Some see it as the grave of love but I see it as a support, assurance and fulfilment between couples who claimed ‘they love each other’ during the dating period.

Children are the essence of marriage yet sadly many don’t see that. When a couple’s marriage degrades, parents suffer so does the children. Many parents I’ve heard, always assures their children –

This is a matter between adults, you kids don’t need to worry

But the reality is we care. Being the essence of marriage how can us, as children, not care about what happens to our parents? Just like a parent can never stop caring for his/her child, we as children can never stop caring for our parents!

Each and everyone of us as the child have our own ways to deal with – running away, supressing negative emotions and ‘don’t care’.

‘Don’t care’ is the ideal mind-set most parents want their children to adopt but how many of us could really achieve that in reality?

How many of you reading this knows how difficult it is for children to do that?

How many parents really know the damage they’ve inflicted on their children?

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